She was 15 years old when her father came home drunk and carrying a gun. Violence was nothing new in the house. Her father had been drinking heavily for years, and when he drank, he could become frightening and unpredictable. But this night was worse.

She and her mother retreated to a bedroom and pushed themselves against the door, trying to keep him out. Then he fired through it. The bullets missed them, but the threat was no longer something that could be ignored. Her mother got a gun of her own and fired back.

Her father died.

Authorities investigated and determined that her mother had acted in self-defense. No charges were filed. For a teenage girl already growing up in a difficult home, it was the kind of experience that could have defined the rest of her life.

Instead, she left.

She was tall, striking and determined to build something better for herself. Modeling provided one possible escape, and before long she was traveling and working professionally. But modeling wasn’t really the dream. Dancing was.

She wanted to become a professional ballet dancer and trained seriously enough to believe she might make a career of it. Then her knees gave out, and the dream disappeared almost as quickly as it had appeared.

So she headed west.

She arrived in Los Angeles young, broke and with no real connections in the movie business. She stayed in a cheap hotel and lived largely on money her mother sent from home. One day, her mother mailed her a check, and she needed the money badly.

There was just one problem: the bank wouldn’t cash it.

Maybe another person would have quietly accepted the decision and walked away. She didn’t. She argued, pleaded and got angry, making enough of a scene that everyone nearby knew something was happening.

The teller saw a frustrated young woman who wanted her money. But the man standing behind her in line saw something else.

He saw a performance.

Not an act. Nothing about her frustration was fake. But he noticed the way she carried herself — the emotion, the intensity, the presence. Something about the young woman arguing with the teller made him think she might belong in front of a camera.

His name was John Crosby, and he was a talent manager. He helped her with the check, handed her his business card and eventually helped introduce her to the world of acting.

It was an unlikely beginning. Her first important Hollywood performance hadn’t taken place on a movie set. It had taken place in a bank, and she hadn’t even known she was auditioning.

Within a few years, small roles became larger ones, and larger roles became leading roles. The struggling dancer who couldn’t get a check cashed became one of Hollywood’s most recognizable actresses.

Then came a role that almost made her unrecognizable.

She gained weight, changed her appearance and disappeared into the character of a serial killer in an acclaimed biopic. Her performance in that role brought her international acclaim.

And there was one more part of the story that might seem surprising to you. As you read about this young woman’s tragic home life, you might have assumed she had grown up in a trailer park in a place like Oklahoma or Alabama. No, this young girl’s tragedy unfolded in a much different place — more than 8,000 miles away across an ocean in a suburb of Pretoria, South Africa, called Benoni.

You might have seen her as a futuristic rebel, a prominent cable news anchor, a seductive ancient goddess or even a serial killer — Aileen Wuornos, in the role that earned her an Academy Award. But now you’ve seen her as a desperate young woman pleading to have a check cashed at a bank. And you’ve seen her even earlier, cowering with her mother behind a door as her father fired a gun through it.

You’ve watched that young woman — who you know as Charlize Theron — voyage across an ocean and a continent to find her destiny, but you know she traveled much further than that to get where she is today.

Because now you’ve seen the story between the lines.

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