Who are my favorite people to be around? The same ones I wrote about earlier this week. My wife. My daughter. My best friend, Scott.
I don’t have a long list, but I have a good list. Quality, not quantity.
I’ve never been the guy who needs a crowd. I can enjoy a crowd. I can work a room when I need to. I can teach 25 ninth graders at 8:30 in the morning and somehow survive it. But when the day is done — when the noise settles and the pace slows — the people I want near me are the ones who know me without explanation.
My wife is at the top of that list. There is no one whose presence steadies me the way she does. We can talk for hours, or we can sit quietly in the same room and not feel the need to fill the space. There’s something sacred about being fully known and still fully welcomed. We’ve walked through hard seasons and beautiful ones, and she is still the person I most want to tell things to first.
Then there’s my daughter.
She has always had a way of surprising me — with her creativity, her generosity, her heart. Being around her feels like watching a story I started decades ago continue in ways I never could have predicted. And now, when I’m with her, I’m also with Sully.
That little boy has rearranged the furniture of my heart.
There’s something about a grandson that hits differently. When he laughs, it feels like history echoing forward. When he runs toward me, arms up, it’s as if time folds in on itself — I see my daughter at two years old, and I see the future at the same time. I didn’t know that stage of life would feel this rich. I’m grateful I get to experience it.
And then there’s Scott.
If you’re fortunate enough to have one friend who has walked beside you for decades — who has seen the wins, the mistakes, the pivots, the reinventions — you understand. We can sit across a table with a couple of Glencairns and talk about bourbon, theology, politics, family, or nothing at all. The pour is almost secondary. It’s the presence that matters.
The common thread?
With each of them, I don’t perform. I don’t edit. I don’t manage perceptions. I just am.
That’s rare in this world.
So no, I don’t have a massive list of favorite people. I don’t need one. I have a small circle that feels like home.
And if I’m honest, that’s more than enough.
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